Everything is just a theory until we put it into practice.
I can hold beliefs and opinions about a great many things. However, those theories mean nothing if they are not confirmed by application. This is a crucial differentiation to make: It does not necessarily follow that something should be just because you believe it to be. You must test your beliefs and apply them to make sure that they are confirmed by reality.
Just because someone holds the belief that they are the best, does not necessarily mean they are the best. They have to test this belief by weighing their skills against others. Their beliefs will only be confirmed if the results confirm them.
When someone dictates their opinions to others without having their opinions questioned or tested in an open exchange or dialogue, they are being irrational. Rationality is reality. If I roll up to training or my job believing that I am already the best, that I have nothing left to learn, I will be unable to improve. I would be holding an irrational belief about myself and my abilities that would only serve to hold me back; restricting my ability to grow as a professional, a martial artist or human being
We must learn to be willing to test all of our most precious ideas and beliefs. If you hold something to be too sacred to you- and it is irrational- you dig the grave for your own personal and intellectual growth.
So, before you hit someone with an “I think..” or a “You should…”, try asking “What do you think…” or “What should I…” I lose interest so rapidly in a one way conversation where I’m being told rather than being listened to. Most people are, even if they’re too polite to tell you.
Don’t punish people with irrational ideas, put your ego aside and try to engage people intellectually; you might even learn something.
Thanks for reading.
The beauty of Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu- or indeed any of the grappling arts- is that there is no body type or kind of person that can’t learn to grapple. People with very body type, every personality, race, culture, religion or walk of life can learn to grapple.
If anyone can learn, why do so many quit? Today I want to explore the ‘mental anatomy’, if you will, of the lifelong grappler and what it takes to develop the mentality. Continue reading “The mental anatomy of a grappler.”
Attending training is an often discussed topic. The bottom line is that consistent attendance leads to consistent improvement.
I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve heard a person say that they’ve hit a plateau or they’ve been in a training rut for months and months; irregular attendance is almost always the reason for this narrative.
The baddest men and women I have encountered in the training room are the ones who are consistent. They attend class, and reap the rewards of their hard, consistent, training.
The mats never lie, and it’s always very clear to see how much time anyone in particular is putting in. I’d like to share 3 of my main thoughts on this topic: Continue reading “Thoughts on Attendance: 3 reasons to be there.”
Anyone who has ever tried to achieve anything worthwhile has encountered adversity. Any pathway to success, be it in your job, a sport, a relationship or artistic pursuit, is going to have obstacles. The pathway to success is littered with failure and the hopes of those that gave up when the adversity became too great.
Today I want to explore the importance of learning to push through adversity, what it can teach you and, most importantly, why you need to learn to embrace it. Continue reading “Adversity: Learn to push through.”
I think we sometimes forget how easy it is to take a picture for social media, throw a filter on it and write something motivational.
What’s not as easy is training hard; day in and day out, pushing your body through pain & injury, fighting for every little bit of progress, sweating & bleeding and pushing back against that voice that keeps telling you that it’s alright being “just ok”
Train hard and don’t stop.
I think there is probably a time in anyone’s life journeys where they’ve said: “Damn, I wish I could just fast forward to when I’m X.”
I don’t think that Jiu-jitsu is any different. Many a practitioner has hoped for a quick(er) promotion or felt frustrated at stalling or slow progress. But I think something that is worth explicitly saying is this: Black Belt is not the goal. It’s only a part of it. I want to explore this and explain why we should be looking at more expansive goals for ourselves. Continue reading “Black Belt is not the goal.”
As we continue to look a the Sedentary Lifestyle and its impact on health and well being, I think it is important to mention that it does not only affect the human body physically, but has emotional and psychological effects on the body too. Continue reading “Beating the Sedentary Lifestyle: The Fatal Trifecta.”